This Is Not The Story You Think It Is: A Season of Unlikely Happiness

Laura Munson's essay in the New York Times, about the time she was tested in a way she never anticipated, created a firestorm-now here's the whole story.

When Laura Munson's essay was published, The New York Times was so flooded with responses that they had to close down the comment feature. Readers wrote in saying that they had sent the column to all of their friends. Therapists wrote Munson to tell her that they were passing it out to their clients.

What did Munson write that caused such a fervor?

Laura detailed what happened when her husband of more than twenty years told her he wasn't sure he loved her anymore and wanted to move out. And while you might think you know where this story is going, this isn't the story you think it is. Laura's response to her husband: I don't buy it.

In this poignant, wise, and often funny memoir, Munson recounts a period of months in which her faith in herself-and her marriage-was put to the test. Shaken to the core after the death of her beloved father, not finding the professional success that she had hoped for, and after countless hours of therapy, Laura finally, at age forty, realized she had to stop basing her happiness on things outside her control and commit herself to an "End of Suffering." This Is Not The Story You Think It Is... chronicles a woman coming to terms with the myths we tell ourselves-and others-about our life and realizing that ultimately happiness is completely within our control.

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By Laura (Whitefish, MT) · ★★★★★ · July 29, 2010
Well, heck. I wrote it. So I love it. I'm proud of its message and I want it to help people. And based on the amazing emails I get all is. Thanks for your support, goodreads!
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By Carlie (Norwalk, CT) · ★★★☆☆ · August 31, 2011
I liked this book. I think I wanted to like it slightly more than I did after I heard about the premise on NPR. Then, when I started the book the author kind of annoyed me. Her trust-fund baby background pushed all my prejudice buttons and set up a nice little tone of resentment that hung between... ...more
By Heather · ★★★★☆ · November 26, 2014
This book is a great friend to have nearby. Too bad it can't dial, text or meet for overly priced coffee or subpar wine. Pretend it's that silent, knowing friend and you will get some good advice on navigating relationships and being true to yourself. Marriage is hard every single day. But knowin... ...more
By Barbara (Ketchum, ID) · ★☆☆☆☆ · May 01, 2010
This book was so horrible that I struggled to continue past the 1st chapter...but I did...and persevered to finish the whole horrid mess. Ms. Munson's style of writing is disjointed, juvenile, and filled with unnecessary and gratuitous expletives. She comes across as a privileged, spoiled, self-c... ...more
By Mary (Topanga, CA) · ★★★★★ · March 27, 2012
When the going got tough... Laura Munson decided not to play the victim. Instead, she was determined NOT to suffer, even when her husband--and the father of her two children--told her he wasn't sure he still loved her. Her response was something akin to "keep calm, carry on," partly because she s... ...more
By Angela · ★★★★★ · June 04, 2012
First of all, you should all read this book. Everyone in the world should read this book.

Why? Because it's about relationships. It's about communication. It's about finding your own bliss - not tying all of your happiness up into another person. You must find happiness in yourself.

I started this... ...more
By Stacey (The United States) · ★★★★☆ · February 27, 2012
How would you react if your husband suddenly told you he didn't love you anymore (maybe never did) and wanted to leave you? I doubt there are many of us that could step back, take a deep breath, and not take it personally. This is exactly how Munson chose to react (CHOSE being the operative word)... ...more
By Jenine (Barrington, IL) · ★☆☆☆☆ · June 06, 2010
UGH! it seems to me that this book is written by a 5 year old! she's SO self absorbed and superior that i didn't like her at all. the premise of the story is good and had potential but this girl blew it. now i know why it took her 20 years to finally get published but i wonder why this one did. T... ...more
By Keely · ★★★★☆ · January 22, 2014
My pastor recommended this book to me, not because my husband has said "I don't love you, and I'm not sure I ever did," but because he knew that this book could apply to anyone enduring a tough relationship. I appreciate Munson's honesty as she shares, sometimes moment by moment, the hardest thin... ...more