Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours

"Kingma deals with love so directly...that Coming Apart brings immediate comfort to anyone in pain." -LA Weekly Next to the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship is the most painful experience most people will ever go through. Coming Apart is a first-aid kit for getting through the ending. It is a tool that will enable you to live through the end of your relationship with your self esteem intact. Daphne Rose Kingma, the undisputed expert on matters of the heart, explores the critical facets of relationship breakdowns:Love myths: why we are really in relationshipsThe life span of loveThe emotional and unconscious processes of partingHow to get through the endingHow to create a personal workbook for finding resolution Originally published in 1987 and continuously in print since then, with more than half a million copies sold, Coming Apart has been an important resource for hundreds of thousands of readers experiencing the pain and stress of a break-up. For anyone going through the ending of a relationship Kingma is a caring, sensitive guide. This re-packaged edition includes a new introduction by the author.

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By David (Huntington Station, NY) · ★★★★★ · November 02, 2009
An insightful and enriching book from a practicing psychologist for tough times. Daphne Kingma proposes that our traditional (default) views of relationships are antiquated. In reality our reasons in being in a relationship are selfish, not selfless, and the ending of relationships are normal. Do... ...more
By Candace (Cleveland, OH) · ★★★★★ · September 09, 2012
After a long-term relationship ended in a less than ideal way, I was fairly inconsolable and looking for solace. Someone recommended this book to me. Not only did it completely change my mood (I viewed it as my bible of sorts that summer), but it really changed my view of relationships. I underst... ...more
By Cdorich (Chicago, IL) · ★★★★★ · October 12, 2014
This is a must read if your in a relationship and need to get out. This book helped me so much and I've recommended to several others that it also helped. It was recommended to me by my therapist at the time. ...more
By Bonnie (Winnipeg, MB, Canada) · ★★★★★ · June 28, 2014
This was an exceptionally helpful read early in my separation in order to help me understand not only what I was feeling, but why it had to happen and that I would in fact be ok. Highly recommend. ...more
By Jack (Atlanta, GA) · ★★★★★ · August 14, 2012
Less a self-help book than a self-awareness book, "Coming Apart" provides a grand perspective on the role of relationships (why the happen, why they come apart) by detailing all the archetypical stages of break-ups. It helped me keep growing through a really hard one myself. The ideas in this boo... ...more
By Benedict (Wellington, G2, New Zealand) · August 11, 2011
The right book at the right time. I've never been a fan of self-help books, but I have to admit that this one was very useful. It helped to clarify my feelings without making me suppress any of them. I haven't finished doing all the exercises (some are a little scary) but just reading through the... ...more
By Christophere (Forest Grove, OR) · ★★★★☆ · December 23, 2012
I read this lil' gem in jail while working my way out of the ass end of F*ckT up relationship. So yeah, I could relate to what Kingma (AUTHOR) was talking about:) ...more
By Jennifer (Woburn, MA) · ★★★★★ · February 25, 2011
This books was fundamental to helping me through the end of my marriage...and for that matter has paid it forward as other relationships have ended. ...more