Last Longer in Bed - Facts and Tips

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Last Longer in Bed - Facts and Tips
The desire to extend playtime beyond its usual duration is a common one among
both men and women. If both partners are interested in this, it makes sense to learn
some tips about how to last longer in bed - provided that both partners'
expectations are realistic. If one or both partners place unrealistic expectations on
the man's stamina, then performance anxiety can set in and further disrupt
pleasure. Since sensual activity is an important part of psychological, relationship
and manhood health, couples should know not only tips for lasting longer, but facts
that dispel common misconceptions about a man's lasting powers as well.
1. Get the facts straight. There is a notable discrepancy between what people
want in bed and what they can reasonably expect (without proper
preparations). Consider the following bits of data:
A Cosmopolitan magazine survey of more than 2,500 women found
that more than 70% said their desired length of lovemaking (from
penetration to male finish) is over 10 minutes, with most saying 15-25
The same magazine surveyed about 30,000 men and found that, on
average, they want longer sack sessions (including pre-play) to last
35-40 minutes.
The average man can handle 3-7 minutes of continual thrusting before
Clearly, some of people's expectations around sensual activity are
unrealistic - at least unless they take special measures to lengthen the
duration of the activity. It's not that men have a problem - only 2-5% of
men qualify as suffering from premature release, which is defined as
finishing within one minute. Lasting for a short period of time is completely
normal, so couples need to understand that, first, it's not a man's fault, and,
second, both can take steps to lengthen their encounters.
2. Proper training is key. There are a couple things men can do outside of
partner play to increase their control over release timing. One is to perform
kegels; this is done by contracting the muscles that control the flow of urine
through the male organ. The exercise is also known to strengthen

tumescence function. 3 sets of 15 reps spread throughout the day is sufficient
to make a difference, and they can be done anywhere.
Second, men can use their self-stimulation routine to up their bedroom
stamina. This is done by employing a method called edging in which a man
brings himself to the brink of release, then stops and waits until he begins to
soften to start up again, repeating the process 3 or 4 times before allowing
release. This trains him to better control the time of release.
3. Vary the speed. Remember: 3-7 minutes of continual thrusting is the
normal time it takes for a healthy man to finish. If both partners are fond of
the jackhammer style of sensual activity, fast and constant, it's not
reasonable to expect much longer from a man. Therefore, when he feels
close to finishing, he can take this as his cue to slow down - kind of like
edging, but with a partner.
4. Try the "7 and 9" method. The 7 and 9 method dictates a more structured
approach to varying speed. The man thrusts fast 7 times, then 9 times more
slowly and repeats.
5. Have mid-play. A man can maintain both male and female organ
stimulation without thrusting in and out. When he's getting close, he can
pull out and rub the head of his male organ along the outside and the
opening of the woman's organ. He can even use the tip to stimulate her
external hot spot.
6. Thrust shallow. Along with varying thrust speed, the depth can be changed
to extend duration. While stimulation of the top of the shaft and head is still
immensely pleasurable, it may bring about release more slowly than full
engulfment of the organ. Also, shallow thrusts are best for hitting her G-
spot, so she won't be likely to complain. Classic doggie style with shallow
thrusts is great for a man's ability to control thrust depth and hitting the G-
7. Be more in the moment. Everyone has likely experienced the "race to the
finish" mentality. It can be hard to delay that immensely pleasurable
moment; sometimes, people fear that they won't finish if they wait, so they
let it happen early on despite an overall desire to go longer. Men can try to
shift their perspective from seeing sensual activity as a means to finish to
seeing it as an enjoyable experience at all its many possible stages.

Men aren't likely to last longer if their skin is sore and chafed. That's why it's a
good idea to use plenty of lube during solo play and sensual activity. It's also wise
to apply a male organ health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man
Oil) after a man's daily shower. A product with Shea butter and vitamin E can
keep the skin is good condition and ready for action.