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THE PR INCIPLES
OF SOCI AL COMPETENCE
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DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to all the embarrassed and
frustrated men around the world. Your failures became
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the impetus for seeking a competent understanding of
social interactions. You did not fail in vain.
Special thanks to Dr. LeDice who brought much
needed clarity to this work. Without him, this would
still be just a jungle of disjointed ideas.
And thank you to all the students at Manhood
Academy. Your progress verifies the authenticity of this work.
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Contents
Dedication
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Clearing out the bullshit
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Part I: Identifying The Problem
What is Feminism?
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What Does The Term "Bitch" Really Mean?
13
Feminism Deforms Society
14
An Attitude of Entitlement
14
Women Shielded From Sexual Accountability
16
An Unfair Sexual Advantage
20
An Unfair Economic Advantage
22
"Equal Rights" Vs. Equal Representation of Interests
25
How Feminism Destroys Chivalry
28
Feminism Damages Women
30
The Victim Mentality
30
Women Encouraged To Deceive
30
Females Encouraged to Neglect Their Gender Roles
36
Over-emphasizing Male Functions
38
Feminism Emasculates Men
39
The Demonization of Men
39
Demonizing Male Sexuality
40
Dating Incompetence
41
The Cycle of Emasculation
42
Lack of Men's Resources
45
The Failure of Men's Rights Leadership
46
Feminism Ruins Social Interaction
47
How Feminism Ruins Relationships
47
The Feminist State Replacing The Function of Men
49
Where Dating "Experts" Go Wrong
50
The "Game" of Social Interaction
52
The Nice Guy
54
The Player
55
Why Feminism Persists
57
Society Not Allowing The Examination of Feminism
57
Faulty Logic Due to Social Conditioning
58
Recognizing The Problem And Changing Our Approach
60
Why Your Social Interactions Fail
60
Boring & Superficial
61
No Direction
61
Can't Lead A Woman
62
Irresponsible Passive Behavior
62
Can't Make A Decision
62
Passive-aggressive
62
Nobody Listens To You
62
Unrealistic Expectations
63
Poor Expression
63
Can't Get Your Needs Met
63
Girls Take Advantage of You
63
Poor Social Interaction Models
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Limited Social Interaction Knowledge/Experience
65
Where To Start
65
Social Interaction Is Universal
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Part II: Understanding The Solution
How to Approach Social Interaction
68
The Need For Public Scrutiny
68
Satisfaction
69
The Cause of Attraction
71
Functional Knowledge
73
Attraction Is Based Upon Necessity
74
Too Short, Too Ugly, Too [Insert Inadequacy]
75
The Need For Principles
78
Order Vs. Disorder
81
Balance--The Perfect Arrangement
83
Dispositional Order
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Positional Order
87
Bringing Order To Your Social Interactions
91
Exposing Disorder
91
Addressing Disorder In Others
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Becoming Accountable For Others
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Limitation prevents disorder
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Schedule Your Time
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Success And Failure
104
Limitation creates Proper Form
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Training Produces Consistency
114
Freedom and limitation
116
Inward Limitation Vs. Outward Limitation
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Direction
118
Authority--The Proper Male Form
121
Purpose of Authority
121
Society Opposes Male Authority
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Authority Maintained By Pain & Pleasure
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Pleasure Establishes Authority
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Pain Maintains Authority
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Fear
129
Authority Requires Submission
132
Why Authority Belongs To Men
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Being Responsible To Those Under Your Authority
144
Personal Authority
145
Social Authority
145
Exercising Functional Authority
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Saying "NO"
147
Leading
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Honoring Vs. Obeying
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Giver
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Initiating
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Why Women Play Games
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Function
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Bringing Others Toward An Orderly State
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The Relationship Between Function And Value
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Restoring a Proper View of Function
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Functional Desires Vs. Dysfunctional Desires
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Functional Socialization
170
The Standard For Social Competence
170
The Test for Dysfunction
172
Social Interaction Does Not Happen In A Vacuum
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Part III: Applying The Solution
Creating And Maintaining Order
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Stop Rewarding Bad behavior
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Types of Expectations
179
Personal Expectations
179
Social Expectations
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How To Get Your Expectations Met
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What Are My Expectations?
181
Your Expectations Should Mirror Your Needs
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Deprivation Vs. Satisfaction
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Dysfunctional Expectations
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Functional Expectations
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Have I Stated My expectations?
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Providing The Right Direction And Removing Options
187
Be Specific With Your Expectations
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Have I Enforced My Expectations?
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Complementary Expectations And Competing Expectations
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Rewarding & Punishing
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Balancing Pain & Pleasure
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Pain Stops Dysfunctional Behavior
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Pleasure Produces Functional Behavior
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How To Punish
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Be Clear
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Be Direct
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Be Thorough
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Attitude Directs Behavior
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Dealing With Mischaracterizations
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Punishing Vs. Justifying
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Apply Pain, not frustration
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How Much Pain To Apply
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Refusing To Punish
201
Fear of Rejection
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Complaining, begging & guilting
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Threats
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Ignoring Without Authority
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Torture
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Causing Terror
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Physical Violence
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Ridicule
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Effective Punishment
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Removing Dysfunctional Behavior
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Disagreement
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Rejection
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Ignoring With Authority
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Captive Audience
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Willing Participant
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Enforcing Consequences
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Using Negative Associations
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Breaking Dysfunctional associations
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Applying Social Pressure
212
Sending Mixed Signals
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The Effects of PunishMent
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Will She Still Love Me?
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From Rebellion To Submission
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Aggressive Rebel
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Passive-Aggressive Victim
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Submissive Woman
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Submission Fuels Attraction
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The Pain Fallacy
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Discipline causes Maturity
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How to Reward
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Always Reward Submission
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Making Women Feel Secure
222
Rewarding Vs. Bribing
223
Types of Rewards
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Agreement
224
Attention
224
Sharing Your Reactions
226
Affection
227
Praise
228
Provision
229
Using Positive Associations
229
Reasoning & Teaching
230
Apologizing
231
Loving
231
Real Life Examples of Managing Expectations
233
Student Training
233
Being Too Passive
233
Justifying Instead of Punishing
233
A Valuable Realization
235
Enforcing An Expectation
236
Asking A Girl Out For Coffee
237
How To Handle Bitch Behavior
238
Extreme Confrontation
243
Leading In A Barber Shop
245
Enforcing Sexual Expectations
246
Checklist
249
Looking For Competence Vs. Creating Competence
250
Creating A Pretense
251
Achieving Social Competence
254
Training Your Expression
262
Monsters Under The Bed
262
Needing A Helping Hand
262
Nourished By Love
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Removing Disorder From Your Expression
265
Components of An Orderly Expression
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Candor
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Degree
270
Content
276
Written Expression
278
Oral Expression
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Be Clear
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Be Direct
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Be Candid
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Be Responsible
282
Speaking With Authority
283
Body Language
284
Physical Appearance
286
Men Are Necessary
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Relationship Balance
287
The Litmus Test of Social Competence
291
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CLEARING OUT THE BULLSHIT
Countless books have been written about social interaction. But none
have actually helped you fully achieve your social goals. The advice is
often
* short-sighted (change your wardrobe)
* too theoretical ("improve your vibe," "be present")
* too simplistic ("be confident," "be yourself")
* too situational ("this only works in bars/clubs")
* flat out wrong ("make sure you pay for the first date")
Today's relationship and dating "experts" bombard you with
contradictory approaches to social interaction. They promise secret
formulas, exclusive techniques, and ground-breaking methods.
They fill you with false hope and shower you with false promises.
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Yet, no one has been able to accurately explain the nature of social
interaction. Instead, they construct business models designed to
capitalize on your social incompetence. These companies have a
vested interest in keeping you dependent on their never-ending
parade of "new and improved" products.
Gurus claiming to teach you social skills usually package a bunch of
gimmicks into a DVD with catchy titles like Seduction Secrets and
Instant Sexual Charisma. Other experts offer worthless, feel-good
advice epitomized by titles like How to Win Friends and Influence
People and I'm OK, You're OK. The vast majority focus on superficial
outward changes. By over-emphasizing the importance of wardrobe,
social status, diet, income and lifestyle, these professional marketers
hook you into a buying an endless parade of products directed at your
emotions. After all, it's much more profitable to just sell you fish than
to actually teach you how to catch them yourself.
Social interaction businesses don't want to tell you the truth: their
expensive 3-day weekend retreats and thousand-dollar seminars
won't provide long term results; you didn't become a social hermit
overnight. It took years of bad social conditioning. Thinking you're
going to cure that overnight is delusional.
To protect yourself from social snake oil salesmen, you must
remember one important fact: social competence isn't found in a
genie bottle. Developing any skill requires time and effort. This entails
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much repetition. Social competence comes from consistency of
application, not simply learning a better way of doing things.
If you're looking to make an overnight change, you're only fooling
yourself. Quick fixes appeal to an immature urge to avoid the pain
of self-discipline. Band-aid solutions are much more tempting than
following a principled approach to social interaction.
Addressing your poor social skills
requires more than just changing
your wardrobe or learning how to
say `cool' things. Before you can
develop a practical view of social
interaction, your own delusional
perspective must be exposed. Thus, it's necessary to examine the
natural laws that govern all social interactions.
PART I: IDENTIFYING THE
PROBLEM
WHAT IS FEMINISM?
Today, most people view feminism as a political and social movement
purporting to secure equal rights and legal protections for women.
However, to properly understand how feminism threatens your social
competence, it is necessary to
distinguish between its political
phases and its fundamental
governing philosophy.
At its heart, feminism represents
women's desire to control men. By
attempting to seize male authority
through the legal system, women
hope to gain special rights and
privileges, entitling them to your
male resources.
But because feminism is masked
by feel-good slogans of gender
equality, it is often misunderstood
and rarely ever opposed. In fact,
it thrives on the ignorance and
complacency of its victims who
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unknowingly help perpetuate its damage on society.
However, once its modern political
aims are sifted out, we're left with
a destructive social philosophy
that preys on our emotions while
removing our social accountability.
Not only does feminism poison
relationships, it erodes the very
gender roles that hold society
together. In fact, nothing more aptly
captures the destructive spirit of
feminism than the age old sentiment:
"I don't need a man!"
While feminists celebrate the spirit
of gender independence, countless
disillusioned men go ignored; for
every woman who believes she can
replace the role of a man, there's a single mother out there creating
a future criminal. For every wife encouraged to defy her husband's
authority, there's another record-setting divorce statistic tearing apart
society. For every girl taught to resent male leadership, there's a
feminist politician trampling male civil rights.
Yet, ironically, feminism purports to protect the rights of women from
male oppression. It even goes so far as to associate itself with the civil
rights movement of African-Americans. However, this faulty rationale
completely disregards the difference between unjust oppression
and natural capacity restriction. In other words, limiting a woman's
job opportunities is not the same as limiting a black man's job
opportunities.
Women are limited by their own natural gender design. Since allowing
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